Motherhood - a boon or a bane?

When do you become a complete woman…. I guess many people would say, when I have the perfect job, when I have my dreamt abt car, when I find the love of my life, when I become super rich…..no….Any woman with hardwork and a bit of luck can get all of this… but a woman is very special otherwise…coz according to the laws of nature… its just a woman who can bear a child and give birth to a new life…I think a marvelous thing to happen….so privileged abt it…have you ever seen a doctor do the test on a woman who is pregnant and when she looks into the screen and finds a tiny life within her , a heart beat within her.... a tear of happiness wld definitely drop...and when a mother hold her child after all the agony that she goes through to bring it out...the pain is forgotten in a split of a second when she looks into what she holds in her hand..the most delicate and the most precious little thing she will ever hold....you, as a woman are complete
And I look around and im amazed by how this blessing is used, misused and spoilt .
Lets take some situations….
A couple who is married and plans for a child …. But not blessed with one… the woman’s mind is like a turmoil every single moment she lives… coz she knows she is not going to bear a child in her womb ever in this life..she is not going to be happy as every other woman can be…she cannot hold her baby close to her body and be a proud mother….be a complete woman…
A couple , happily married, has children, looks after them , make them responsible enough to lead an independent life, and then the children treat them as a piece of shit where the parents have to take appointments to see them or have a coffee with them.. latest trend… and the sickest of all…and I rightly say, we would feel the pain only when we become a parent….
A couple in love, having unprotected sex, girl getting pregnant, not having the courage to face the world with this right now, aborts the child , kills it before its born..one has never the right to take someones life…atleast not when the mistake is urs…
A couple in love, having sex, girl getting pregnant, want to have the child, but due to complications, got to choose between the girl’s life and the child’s life…unfortunately got to kill the life within her , a reason which could have been her source of happiness for the entire whole life, living in this darkness of guilt forever, killing her everyday from inside….
A girl getting raped, bearing a child of an unknown person…still bringing the child out into the world…. The child cursing her for not knowing who his father is…for he is called a bastard by his friends….a mother who would curse tht moment when she decided to still have him inspite of everyone closing their doors on her and secluding her form the normal society norms.
A girl getting raped, bearing a child and then forsaking it to avoid raising fingers at her…not knowing to what circumstances the baby would grow into ,not being there to feed him with her milk, not being there with him to hold his fingers to help him walk, not being there to watch him grow…would she ever be able to forgive what she has done…
A woman bearing a child who is born with a retarded brain….im not sure if she would love the baby more, or curse it , if the baby is a burden or liability or her unfulfilled wish for happiness and peace
when I was a child, I always used to tell my mom that I would feel complete when I become a mother as that’s when your life as a woman has had its purpose … to bear a new life within you, to be able to do that , to be privileged to do that…I think one must have a child, when one is ready for it.. not when people say we are ready for it…in Indian culture, people want to see children from married couples in ten months of marriage or else something is wrong… there is no value for education, career or anything for that matter when it comes to a women bearing a child ….
Im also surprised when people are upset to have dark skinned babies, or girl babies when they were expecting boys or viceversa…isn’t it so much better that the child is born healthy and live….
People never appreciate what they have in life…until they know the value of what they have…
A woman who has no time for her children coz she has to attend the kitty parties will never understand the pain of a woman who could never bear a child ….
A woman who has a fully healthy child who comes second in class will never understand the tears of a woman whose child is starving and fighting with death everyday….
A woman whose career always fell first before her kids will never understand the miles walked by a woman begging in the streets to get a piece of bread for her child to be alive for just that one more night…
A woman who always gifts her children with expensive gifts will never be able to see the tears dried up on the cheeks of a woman whose child takes up a gun as their first toy…
A woman who is a supermodel whose figure and diet matters the most will never be able to grieve with a husband whose wife’s last wish was to have the baby even if it kills her….
Let us rise in the moral power of womanhood; and give utterance to the voice of outraged mercy, and insulted justice, and eternal truth, and mighty love and holy freedom. Let all the women be blessed by being a mother coz there is no other job which gets a better pay…the payment of pure love…Motherhood , a phase of womanhood, has a very humanizing effect coz everything else gets reduced to essentials then ….