PARENTS

Parents- biologically they give birth to us…so we owe them our life, if not for them we wouldn’t have been here….
The pain a mother goes thru in giving birth to a child, and the happiness when she holds her baby sieved from her own blood is undescribable. The path and sacrifices a father makes to make sure that his child gets all what he desires for , to make sure he is getting all the comforts of life is unexplainable.

The sleepless nights when the children are sick , the fear of them getting hurt when they first start to walk , the tears of joy when they say their first word, the satisfaction to see them sleep in calm….parents….they go through a lot….

And then we grow up….oh now, the situation gets interesting…
We go to school and the parents see to it that we have everything.. a new bag, a new tiffin box, pencil box, new stationary, uniform, books ….and we are so ready to show off our new stuff to our friends…
And when u come back from school the parents are eagerly waiting to know how was your first day … and you come home with a sulky face…why? Coz ur friend has a better bag than you, someone else has a fancier pencil/pen…… and then the smiles which should have been brought on our parents face just fades away…and they feel tht they have let us down..they haven’t fulfilled our dreams…
Not fair…
The same thing happens when u go to ur next grade, ur prom parties…..
They do everything they can…and instead of us thanking them , we always let them down by complaining on wht they haven’t done….
But they never give up on trying to do things beter…

And then enters a brand new phase…adolosence…
Wow..thats the rebellious one…
Mom says…”have ur glass of milk”…and we shout back….”maa..please leave me alone”….dad says..”why are you so late coming back home” and we are like “paa..im grown up, I need some independence….” Mom says…”I think the neckline is too low” and we scream like “ cant I even wear what I feel like…. God this is like a prison”
Remember those days….
Ur first crush, ur first kiss…and those romantic times u wanted to get lost in ..and ur parents were the villains…always ….our concept….”they never understand me yaar…it’s the generation gap…they are so narrow minded….they have a prob with everything I do, the food I eat, the dress I wear, the music I hear, the people I talk to ..i cant take this anymore yaar… I just hate them”

That’s enough….we hate them….truly they don’t deserve that….

When I was a kid…I was treated like a princess my parents.. I always thought of sth , and I always got it..sometimes I had to ask for it.. but most of the times, without asking only …and I don’t know why… I was never scared of them… I always thought of them as my friends…so I could say anything and everything to them….

Especially with my mom….she was my best friend…if I was sad , she wld know and viceversa…. And I always used to say , I would want to be like her when I grow up…

And everyone who don’t know me might think that I had a very good family life… so for those readers, I would want to say …that life was good… but not without comlplications… and a lot of them…some scenarios which you guys cant even imagine…
But there was something which always held us together…our family bond….

And then once, I asked my parents for something which I loved so much….and then for the first time they said “No”….and I believed and trusted my parents thoughts more than mine….so I didn’t chase wht I was after….
I was never upset with my parents….never questioned why they said NO to me..always thought they knew better….
I always had it in my heart that I should always be there for them… its my duty, my responsibility and my love for them….
And I have lived up to it all these days…. Never told them anything which will make them feel tht they have not been there for me…or bring tears to them coz of me… I have taken each and every of their problem as mine own…and did everything wht I could from my end…
And there was one day when my mom told me “im so proud of you my daughter…there was a time when I thought I would never now u as a person and today u have proved to be everything tht we ever wanted”
And I will never forget tht day…
So the sacrifices I made never looked as significant to wht my parents mean to me…

Then after all these years… I asked them something again…I cried and pleaded to them…I made them understand what and how and why it is …
But they again said “NO”…
And I was so mad at them…I felt they never understood me…its their life they were bothered about…not mine…when I had a problem, they didn’t bother standing by me..not even understanding me..
I was so cross at them and didn’t bother even talking to them ….i felt in my heart tht whtever I did was of no use… coz they couldn’t once think of something by stepping into my shoes…..
They said tht they cared for my happiness but cant agree to wht I say…ok…that is weird..how can that be…if they cared , if they wanted my happiness…they should have stood by me…but they didn’t…
So why should I love them back so much….
Crazy thoughts…all the time in the head…

Sometimes we are ready to die for the ones we love…but look at me ….im nto even ready to forgive my parents who love me so much and who gave birth to me…
If I have always wanted to live for them, what has changed now…i have lost something which perhaps i will never be able to get back ...but that is my problem right...

I wanted to tell my parents that im sorry…..to have thought so …to have been mad at them for so long…I still don’t agree to what they said…. But keep aside my pain and sorrows…I want to forgive them and keep no grudges…
Its been heavy on my heart for so long now… but when you forgive someone, it becomes easier in life…
My parents still mean the world to me… and I have no right to be upset on them…and im sorry to have caused hurt and pain to anyone to whom I couldn’t do justice coz I m my parents daughter…
A lot has changed…a lot need to be changed…
As a fresh step into a new life….i want to start it with the blessings of my parents…

I love you dad and mom….!!!!

WOMEN

Wow.. this should be a topic to write….
Before I write about it, I want all of you to watch this video….
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXh-A-_nYKs

I just loved every single point of what he said…its so true…

What does a woman want…to take control of everything, to get someone to listen to her problems, and the ability to think that she can fix everything…(yeah, sure)

What does a man want… to let go of the stress, to do things the easy way, to talk about the best job, car and girls, and do nothing else…. (yeah..always)

Im a woman….a normal ordinary woman… and I normally am being claimed to be nice too… people say im caring , understanding, loving .. a lot of nice things…
Bull crap…. Just like any others…im all of this, when im okie…when everything is going fine for me…if not… then im also the selfish, don’t care abt others, bitchy person.

It takes only a split of a second for things to change in life…and when things do , in the bad direction…we women tend to forget all the good what has happened in life… how well u were treated… how well u were looked after… how many people were around u …and all of tht … we just remember those bad passes that were made, the only times when the promises were not kept…the only times when we were not supported, the only times when we were made to cry….. boom… all the good things just vanish into thin air…

Women need attention 24*7. They want themselves to be treated well, nice things to be said abt them, small little gifts to be presented to them….there is always this unrivalled quest of attention being paid to them….
But I have read somewhere tht what we expect to be done to us, we need to do to others too… but do we care…. Do we ever say “hey u look good today “, do we ever bother to send flowers, do we ever bother to try and pick their self confidence when they need support….No , we don’t….
Why shld we , we are the women .. we need things done to us….

And what if ur man does everything just the way u want him to do .. treat u like a princess… and coz of sth…if he doesn’t say sme nice words to u for sme time… u r pissed… u make accusations…
I tell u … what a pity ….

Im a woman who has been put to test so many ways at different phases of life… sometimes I feel im fortunate looking at the plight of those who are having a dreadful life… sometimes I feel stranded looking at those who have wht I don’t … or looking at wht I cld have been but cursing wht im now…
And I always used to think I lived most of my life for others… but did I really?
Was I always not looking out always for what I wanted…
And if I was getting what I wanted, was I not always wishing for more, or evern trying to protect what I have , treat it well?

I have realised over time… that im no super woman… and when situations are bad… I also sometimes turned out to be the bitchy kind. But there is a goodness in me…which I have nurtured for years.. I don’t want to lose whats the most precious in my life…I don’t want the situations to turn me into a monster im not…

I want to gather up whatever I can…live my life.. coz I have just one…so buckle up girl… its time u give it a go again…
I know I will fall a thousand times.. but I will get up and fight again….I will be let down a thousand times, I will live up to the expectations again… I will be in the dark for ages… but there is always going to be a sunrise after the night…so I will wait for it and get myself walking towards the light…

Learnt lessons… be grateful and appreciate wht u have, don’t let situations ride u , and for heaven sake pls stop complaining!!!