Relationships...

To fall into a relationship is much more easier than to maintain them….im sure everyone has experienced them…..Lets start with the basics… An expecting woman can start a relationship with the new life in her womb… it becomes harder through years to prove to be a good mother…A newly wed wife and husband can start a relationship with the bond of marriage….it becomes harder through years to prove your love, respect and dutiful nature towards staying thru thick and thin….A newly joined student can start a relationship with a student sitting beside him… it becomes harder through years to stay in contact and cherish the years when you were alone on a bench and he came to share his tiffin with you…
We sometimes have an unknown relation to some people in the world….maybe a person whom we see daily on our way to work, but never spoken a word to …. Or maybe a person whom we talk to as our client but don’t know how he/she is actually like…. Or maybe a person whom we have only heard of, and some of their deeds just make a mark in our life…..Its sometimes difficult to explain some relations…. Have you ever imagined why some relations are so simple at times and yet so complicated… have you ever had a friend whom you had fallen in love with but never told them in fear of losing them…..have you ever had a lover whom you loved so much that you decided to breakup with him for him to have a better life….
In everyones life, comes that one person , that one relationship…. One cant give it a name or say who he/she is to us ….. but just because it is so … life feels better… more complete. We find a lot of people who travel with us in life in a limo , cherish those relations who also travel with you in a bus when the limo breaks down…there are times when two people need to step apart, its because they are not perfect …. But then let them stay not so far away, coz inspite of all their imperfections, they bring the best out in you as they are perfect for you….
Relationships are always an important part of life. And I mean all relationships - friendship, love, marriage, relationship by choice, relationship by birth. Learn what makes them tick, why they sometimes go wrong, what one can do about it, and why they are so precious.

impacts on life

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Charles R Swindoll

when given a chance to write, i would have written absolutely the same text ....
life plays its strangest games with us... sometimes we are at the mercy of the situation, sometimes at the mercy of our thinking-childishness, maturity, madness, anger....
it takes a split of a second to make or break a name, a tradition, a trust, a relation....sometimes,what we do can have effects on our lives later... and not necessarily only on our lives... but also on others lives... or on lives of whom we love..
what happens when a right decision taken once looks wrong later? what happens when a good deed from you turns out to be a curse for the other? what if your helping hand drowns the other person in misery?what if your sacrifice holds no value for the person whom you made the sacrifice for?

a lot of ifs, buts,what, why .... questions never answered.... prayers that are not heard, deeds which are forgotten,smiles wiped away ....and so dream as you will live forever and live as if you will die today .... coz when one decides on how to satisfy ones own inner conscience, then all questions are answered, all prayers are heard, all deeds remembered and smiles to be spread always ...

marriage and friendships

until marriage....be it for a boy or for a girl...friends mean a world to them....
u wanna discuss something, u wanna go out for movie, or u just want to share a youtube video.... u just think of ur friends...
then one gets married...and everything suddenly changes....
most of the indian girls get confined to their family life then ..new adjustments, new compromises, new sacrifices....they lose touch with their friends...
most indian guys also go through the same phase.. but they somehow are in touch with their old friends...still hang out with them...
so wht is different here....
i think its very necessary to give each one some space... so that they dont have to completely leave out their old world when entering into the new married world... i know of some of my male friends who dreaded marriage thinking their their new wives wouldnt let them hang out like before and they would lose touch with their old friends circle...
wouldnt it be better to have a balance... maybe to include ur wife also in these social gatherings..and to reduce the number of hang outs so that you can also spend time with family...it is also imporatnt that one gets such a prtner who is able to understand the values of the partners' friends...
i have a lot of friends ... but 3 friends without whom i cannot live...and my husband had a circle of friends whom he used to meet up with every second day before marriage happened...
when we got married...it was kind of blending into each others lives... i couldnt see my close friends anymore as i was residing in a different country then , but always kept in touch thru calls and chats and mails...and also told my hus abt wht was happening in their lives...and i easily merged into my husbands group of friends too...it was happy to see tht they also accepted me into the group...we meet very often with them, not as regular as before marriage but more than adequate and i make it a point to meet my friends when i go back to india...
so for us, life didnt change in regards to friends... but yes... i did lose some friends during the course of time when they found no time to keep in touch after marriage... but then one cannot expect everyones life to be as i would wish it to be...
im glad and thankful.... that our friendships could still remain after marriage... one might not think this as an important part of life... but it plays an important part when one gets out of the fantasy period of marriage... one starts to miss ones friends... and then one realizes how important it is to have a balance between friends and married life.