-You want the event to go well and as planned because you’ve put in so much effort into making everything perfect. But you won’t be sure until the party’s over.
-You have a job interview coming up. You understand the type of person the company is looking for (you, of course!), but you still don’t know what type of questions the panel might throw at you.
No matter how positive and prepared one is, the unknown tends to get in the way, doesn’t it? These situations can easily eat away at you. You imagine a million and one possible scenarios and outcomes. You panic over the negative thoughts going through your head.
So the question is: When life delivers so many curveballs, what is the point in worrying about the unknown?
More than any uncertainty in the above mentioned situations, there is one very grave uncertain fear that everyone has – death. No matter how happy or depressing our life is, death is scary. The very moment when we know we are going to die is the scariest. The fear and the uncertainty that death brings along is beyond explanation.
I cant speak for all but I can share a small experience I had recently. I knew I was going to Las Vegas for a conference and there was so much work to be finished before leaving. It might have been the stress or the workload or the weather but I knew I was ill .. it started with a flu, then cough and fever and throatpain…. But I had deadlines to be met at work and so I kept swallowing medicines and kept going for work. Then came the day when I was flying to Vegas. I was in high spirits and why shouldn’t I be.. how many get a chance to attend a conference in Vegas with the whole trip paid out… And trust me Vegas was so full of life , every time of the day and night. Went on full swing for two days until one day after dinner when I got back to hotel, I was kinda feeling not so well… I thought it must be just some sleep issue… but it was worse than I thought… I started throwing up, followed by high fever (around 39 or 40 degrees) where I thought my body was burning on fire. I could hardly stand up , forget about going for the conference on the last two days. I was so bed ridden and most of the time either unconscious or fast asleep coz of the medicines. I just wanted to go home. I realized over the trip that I had an increasing level of cough with mucous… which got worse after the 20 hr travel back home. The doctors wrote me antibiotics and full bed rest… although the fever came down, the cough persisited and the body was so weak , that when I walked a few steps I had to catch hold of my breath…felt like 80 years….Then another doctor told me to check for infection on lungs, thyroid and other troubles.. These were not symptoms to die for… but some fear caught me… what was the fear? Just simple uncertainty of whts wrong with me.. if there was something seriously wrong, then wld I die? If there is thyroid, then wld I become fat and nobody would love me anymore… if I were to have something big, then would I be a burden on my loved ones… A million thoughts on uncertain fear for something small of this grade…my readers might think i must be crazy to think so. But being sick with weird symptoms for 4 weeks and noone telling you whats wrong is not easy to digest too...Thankfuly the blood tests all came good and I was advised to improve my immunity….And all fears vanished into thin air…
People fear the unknown because it is beyond our ability to control and often presents us with truths that would compel us to change. I think its because it is our human instincts to want to have power and control, especially over our lives. When we don't know what is going to happen, we naturally get scared because that puts us in a vulnerable position
The secret is to trust that whatever an outcome is going to be, it will be a positive experience, either immediately or through hindsight. Not an easy task, because you are asking them to think and feel and change and grow.
The only thing we have to fear is fear itself--nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance. And even for the unknown death, why die many times before death actually reckons by fearing when it would come to us than live life and make it worth living. Each time we face our fear, we gain strength , courage and confidence in the doing. Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood .
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