Letting Go...

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.”
-- Havelock Ellis

Letting go- is difficult for us in so many ways and on so many levels. Yet life calls upon us to do it, over and over again. Letting go is part of our growth process. We cannot move on to the new while continuing to cling to the old. But how do we know what to hold on to and what to let go. People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar

Why do we let go of a certain relationship….perhaps it was never meant to be… perhaps there was not more to give, perhaps you didn’t want the other person to be hindered in life, perhaps… and what normally happens when we let go…we either still cling on to the past or continue to harbour animosity….i cant say all memories are easy to wash away.. but one must definitely let go off the anger….
Sometimes we have to let go just coz we cant do anything about it, its not in our hands to control certain aspects of life which might include death..
By letting go, I am not implying "to forget" or "to ignore." By all means, we should carry with us the happy memories and the lessons we have learned from our past relationships. However, we need to let go in the sense of releasing emotional baggage we may be carrying around with us, so that we may be open to, and present for, a new way to look at life. Some think it's holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it's letting go. Letting go of someone , for whatever reason it is, is never going to be easy and be prepared coz its going to bloody hurt !!!
Sometimes there is regret, repenting and a lot of aggression when we have to let go of something /someone without actually wanting to but when we have to coz of what we were put into…but whats the point in fighting against the tide…your tears will be once washed away or dried off…sometimes you have to let go to realise the worth of what you were holding on….

Many of us have trouble letting go of old ways of viewing people who have been part of our lives for an extended period of time. They may be changing, and yet we do not let go of viewing them in the same way, and/or we try to discourage that change. We refuse to let go of the labelling, categorizing, and pre-set expectations we have of those we know, and of ourselves. Sometimes we can see examples with parents who are not ready to let go of the truth that their children are growing and not kids anymore. It is hard for parents to make that transition from treating their children as kids, to treating them as adults and more like friends.
Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.

For most, if not all, of us, the letting go that we most need to do is a type of surrender. We need to surrender to life, itself. This means that we need to let go of our illusion that we actually can control most aspects of our lives. In many cases, rather than to fight "what is," we need to learn to accept and to be at peace.Too many of us are trying to keep a tight grip on things that are out of our control. This is like trying to grip the water flowing in a river. Put your hands into the river. If you try to get the water by grabbing it and clenching your fists, it goes right out of your hands. If you relax and open, gently cupping your hands, the water flows into your palms. By relaxing, opening, and trusting, we can hold onto more of what is precious to us.One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us. So try to learn to let go ….forgive and attain peace in what the rest of your life holds for you…