marriage and friendships

until marriage....be it for a boy or for a girl...friends mean a world to them....
u wanna discuss something, u wanna go out for movie, or u just want to share a youtube video.... u just think of ur friends...
then one gets married...and everything suddenly changes....
most of the indian girls get confined to their family life then ..new adjustments, new compromises, new sacrifices....they lose touch with their friends...
most indian guys also go through the same phase.. but they somehow are in touch with their old friends...still hang out with them...
so wht is different here....
i think its very necessary to give each one some space... so that they dont have to completely leave out their old world when entering into the new married world... i know of some of my male friends who dreaded marriage thinking their their new wives wouldnt let them hang out like before and they would lose touch with their old friends circle...
wouldnt it be better to have a balance... maybe to include ur wife also in these social gatherings..and to reduce the number of hang outs so that you can also spend time with family...it is also imporatnt that one gets such a prtner who is able to understand the values of the partners' friends...
i have a lot of friends ... but 3 friends without whom i cannot live...and my husband had a circle of friends whom he used to meet up with every second day before marriage happened...
when we got married...it was kind of blending into each others lives... i couldnt see my close friends anymore as i was residing in a different country then , but always kept in touch thru calls and chats and mails...and also told my hus abt wht was happening in their lives...and i easily merged into my husbands group of friends too...it was happy to see tht they also accepted me into the group...we meet very often with them, not as regular as before marriage but more than adequate and i make it a point to meet my friends when i go back to india...
so for us, life didnt change in regards to friends... but yes... i did lose some friends during the course of time when they found no time to keep in touch after marriage... but then one cannot expect everyones life to be as i would wish it to be...
im glad and thankful.... that our friendships could still remain after marriage... one might not think this as an important part of life... but it plays an important part when one gets out of the fantasy period of marriage... one starts to miss ones friends... and then one realizes how important it is to have a balance between friends and married life.